Why do people bully?
While it is easy to believe people bully because there is something wrong with them, in reality many factors contribute to bullying. This includes the simple dynamic between the bully and his or her target, the organizational context and culture, the bully's personality, and the victim's personality.
In terms of the bully specifically, relatively few studies have addressed perpetrators of workplace bullying; an irony Rayner and Cooper (2003) refer to as the “black hole in bullying at work research.” However, scholars do seem to agree that at the very least, bullies are likely threatened by the people they bully and therefore lash out in an effort to regain the control they perceive to have lost.
My book, BACK OFF! Your Kick-Ass Guide to Ending Bullying at Work, offers 11 reasons people become bullies at work:
#1: The bully feels insecure
#2: The bully lacks resourcefulness and lashes out in frustration
#3: The bully either feels all-powerful or powerless, and bullies to either maintain power or gain power
#4: The bully lacks effective communication skills, emotional intelligence and empathy
#5: The bully lacks leadership skills (or thinks leading means bullying)
#6: The bully is easily provoked or has a low tolerance for stressful situations
#7: The bully thinks bullying is acceptable behavior
#8: The bully has a personality disorder (please do not try to diagnose your co-workers!)
#9: The bully and target's personality styles clash
#10: People who witness the behavior do not stand up to the bully
#11: The workplace has a bully-friendly work environment or culture
For more information, read BACK OFF!
Interesting facts about bullying
70% of bullies are in management positions.
That means between 30% of bullies are either peers bullying peers, or subordinates bullying superiors.
81% of targets report being bullied as a group by one single individual.
Oddly, when one individual is bullying a group, the behaviors tend to last longer than when a group is bullying a single individual.
The longer bullying goes on, the more severe and frequent the behaviors become.